Relationships are unpredictable, and there is nothing you can do about it. It may start off as perfect, and you may even think that you’re going to love and be with each other for the rest of your lives.
But sadly, things don’t always work that way. Sadly, sometimes the situation takes its own course, and no matter what you try to do about it, you’ll fail.
Love is not easy, and it shouldn’t be easy. Imagine all those emotions and experiences intertwined with each other. How could that not be complicated?
Love takes work, and relationships take work. Everything that is worth having takes work and sacrifice. So when you come to an obstacle in your relationship, you have to fight and try to make it better.
Be mature about it, and consider it like you’ve hit a dead end. Now, you have to do something about it. Don’t quit because that’s the easy way to go, and anyone can quit. Be a fighter, and do whatever you can to save something that is probably worth saving.
That is one way to look at it. But there is the other side to the story. Just as you have to know when to be stubborn and fight, you also have to know when to quit.
You can’t make up love out of thin air. You can’t force passion and emotions. If they aren’t there, then you’ll definitely have to call it quits.
If the relationship you’re in is just not for you, it’s never going to work out. No matter how hard you try, you’re never going to be happy.
So the best thing you can do, but also the hardest one if you love the man you’re with, is to just let him go. It’s something that has to be done sooner or later.
In the beginning, it will be hard, and you’re going to hurt, but as time goes by, you’ll see that you made the right call.
If he does these things, don’t think twice and just leave:
1. Your interests are different
You’re simply not on the same page. You like one thing, and he likes something else completely. You can’t change that. You can try to do something together, but if neither of you enjoys it, then what’s the point?
You can’t seem to see eye to eye when it comes to the future. You want to do or have one thing, and he wants something completely else.
So when you think about it, your relationship is set to fail from the beginning, so why wait? Break it off right now. You’ll thank yourself later.
2. You constantly fight about same things
It’s like you’re going around in circles. You fight, then you make up and everything is perfect for the next few days, but that doesn’t last for long.
After the short-term peace, you fight again and surprise, surprise – it’s about the same thing again.
If you can’t sort out the thing you’re fighting about constantly, then you’re not made for each other. There is clearly something he resents you for doing and the other way around. If you can’t work that out, let him go.
3. He’s needy
You think you can spot neediness miles away? Well, it’s not as simple as that every time. Neediness comes in different forms. One of them is him making you the center of his universe.
That can easily be mistaken for love, when it’s actually him being incompetent to live without you. It starts that way, and it ends with him forbidding you going out and hanging around with other people.
Then, he’ll get more and more jealous, and your life will slowly turn into a living hell.
4. He breaks your trust
He is not fully in love as much as you. He doesn’t have problems with hurting you. Yes, he apologizes and says he didn’t mean it, but then he completely does the same thing all over again.
This makes you vulnerable, and it breaks your heart. More importantly, it breaks your trust. After some time, his words and his promises will mean absolutely nothing to you.
You can’t go on living with someone you don’t trust.
5. You’re the only one trying
It takes two to tango, and he left you completely alone. Obviously, he doesn’t care about the two of you as much as you do.
Relationships take hard work, and if both of you are not giving it all you’ve got, then the relationship will come to an end.
It’s completely heartless to let one person do all the work and show up in the end when everything is done. One-sided relationships don’t work and if you’re in one, do yourself a favor and leave.
6. You feel inferior to him
In your relationship, you don’t feel like an equal to your partner. You feel like you’re giving a lot and receiving nothing in return.
No matter how hard you try to make him feel comfortable and happy in your relationship, you continuously feel like you’re not giving your best and that maybe you’re even incapable of doing so.
He makes you feel like you’re not good enough because everything you do is not enough for him. This hurts your self-esteem, and you feel like shit. If this is the case, leave.
7. You’re not happy
Let’s face it. Your life is shit. You’re not happy, and love provokes pain and stress rather than beautiful feelings. Well, love is hard, but it doesn’t work that way.
When you truly love someone and he loves you back, even if you fight to the bone, you’ll kiss and make up. The fact that you get back to each other and the emotions that you go through you erase all the bad things that happened before.
That’s true love. No pain. No hurting because real love makes you forget all of it.