So how can we keep love going, even a little bit? According to researchers, one of the single most effective ways of keeping the spark alive is a novelty. Studies that have followed couples for years have found that doing new, exciting, and challenging activities together have huge benefits for relationships.
Dr. Art Aron, one of Fisher and Brown’s chief collaborators, and his wife, Dr. Elaine Aron developed the “Self Expansion Model” that offers insight into the early stages of love and partly explains why the first few months of a new relationship feels so intoxicating. “When you enter into a relationship, you literally increase who you are. You take on/share in your partner’s perspective on the world in addition to your own, their social status, their resources. The benefits of new and challenging experiences together are enormous. And they last.”
Suspension of judgment, rekindling of the early stages and maintaining novelty, just maybe the keys to cracking the code of lasting love.