You must always make sure to stay true to yourself with your flaws, imperfections, and weaknesses included. You have to have the courage to face life in a way that seems natural to you. You have to be comfortable with being yourself regardless of how imperfect you might think that you may be. You will have your days where you will be at your worst, and you have to be okay with that. But more importantly, your partner has to be okay with that as well. You don’t have to force yourself to be someone you don’t want to be just to please him. You can’t tame yourself for his convenience if you don’t want to. If he can’t handle you at your wildest, if he can’t take you at your worst, then he certainly doesn’t deserve to have you at your best. So if you ever find yourself in a relationship with someone who can’t appreciate you even when you’re being your worst self, you need to walk away from that situation.
You are a unique individual. You are special. And your flaws and imperfections? They are what help make you unique. Sure, you have you bad days. But that’s what life is all about. You are an imperfect human being. But you are also perfectly original because of your imperfections. And if he fails to see that, then he really shouldn’t be worth any of your time anymore. You need to do you; even if it means you making your fair share of mistakes along the way. You need to march to the beat of your own drum; even if it means you getting left behind every once in a while. You have to be able to stay true to yourself or else you will risk losing yourself completely. And you shouldn’t want to be with him if he doesn’t respect that. You need to have the strength and courage to do the things that are natural to you even if he won’t approve of them. Because at the end of the day, you are the one who has to live with the repercussions of your actions (or inaction) and he should be there to support you regardless of what happens. And if he won’t be supportive, then why are you even with him? If he’s not looking out for what’s best for you, what’s the point of being in a relationship with him?
There are just so many women in the world who allow themselves to get victimized by controlling and manipulative men. They kill themselves trying to be the perfect versions of themselves that these men have in their minds. And as a result, these women completely lose sight of who they are; and they are doing it at the pleasure of men who aren’t even deserving of their efforts. You have to be the voice for these women. You have to be a beacon of hope. You have to show the world that you don’t need a man to make you happy. You have to prove that you don’t need to change who you are for you to be loved. If you’re with a man who can’t love you for being yourself, then he doesn’t deserve to be called your man at all.
You were never meant to be chained and shackled. As a human being, you don’t deserve to be boxed in. You should never feel compelled to act or be a certain way especially if it makes you uncomfortable. He shouldn’t be forcing you to act in a way that is completely unnatural to you. He should learn to accept you for who you are even the worst version of you. He should encourage you to always be comfortable in your own skin. He should always make it a point to make you feel like you’re free to be who you are. He should allow you to make your mistakes. He should be tolerant of you having your off days. And instead of making you feel bad about your shortcomings, he should be helping you to get back on your feet. Instead of laughing at you when you stumble, he should be willing to carry you as you try to regain your strength.
At the end of the day, no human being is perfect. And the heavens know that he’s far from perfect as well. But you still manage to love him despite him having his bad days. You still commit to him even when he’s giving you very little reason to do so. However, he doesn’t do the same for you. He only wants to be with you when it’s convenient for him. He only wants to be with you when you’re at your best. And that’s why he doesn’t deserve to be with you at all.