It’s time to come out of the novels and movies.
A lot of people will strongly believe that love is the single most powerful force in the world and it can really be hard to argue with that. There is just no denying that so many of us crave for and pursue love with all of our hearts. For a lot of us, finding, keeping, and preserving love can take the course of an entire lifetime. And that enough is proof of just how significant a role love can play in our lives. There are plenty of us who allow ourselves to get hurt over and over again just so we can get the chance at experiencing what true love feels like.
And the weird thing is that even though a lot of us crave for love, it seems like none of us are able to ever perfectly describe or define what it is. And that’s partly due to the fact that love can mean so many things to so many different people. We all have our own ways of navigating our love life. And so it can be hard to figure out a definitive course of action that one most take in the pursuit of love.
And so you might seem totally helpless and hopeless as all of your romantic experiments just seem to keep failing over and over again, you shouldn’t lose faith. Maybe you’ve just been approaching love all wrong. Or maybe there are just some lessons that you need to learn about love before you can actually be ready to experience it. Remember that love isn’t going to come knocking on your door unless you’re actually ready for it. Love will come when it comes. And in the meantime, it’s better that you keep yourself prepared.
Learn to face the truth and gain a more realistic perception on what love really is. Love in real life is totally different from love in the fantasy world. And you’re in for a rude awakening if you don’t know the harsh truths that come with trying to find love in a real world. Remember that it takes two mature people to fall in love with one another; and so you have to be mature enough to understand these harsh truths about love:
1. You typically attract the kind of people you are equipped to be with.
It’s as simple as that really. You’re never going to be able to attract people who you won’t have a shot at being compatible with to some extent. A lot of what goes into driving people into each other’s arms is compatibility. And if you’re not equipped to handle a certain type of person, you are never going to have a shot at being together.
2. You are willing to risk big things for the chance of finding love.
You are going to take some huge risks when it comes to love. A lot of these risks aren’t always going to be rational or logically sound, but you’re going to take them anyway. And that’s what love is supposed to be. It defies all logic. It’s supposed to be something you feel, and not think about.
3. You are going to change who you are for the sake of love.
Whether that’s a good or bad thing is up to your relationship. Love can have the power to make or break people. It can force and inspire you to be better, but it can also drive you to be bad.
4. You are never going to cheat on someone you’re genuinely in love with.
If you cheat on your partner, then you weren’t really in love with them to begin with. Search deep inside your heart and you will know it to be true. You would never willingly hurt a person you are supposedly in love with to that degree. You would never betray a person you love in that regard.
5. You feel responsible for the life of another person when you’re in love with them.
It’s as if you take on a whole new life that you can call your own when you fall in love. You essentially share your entire life with this person.
6. The person you fall in love with is a reflection of who you are as a person as well.
The person you fall in love with is always going to be a reflection of your own personality. You put everything that you have; your goals, your dreams, your likes, your dislikes, your passions, your principles, your core values, your ethics, and your interests all into this one person. Your partner essentially becomes an extension of your own personality.
7. You will develop a renewed perspective on life because of this love.
Love is always going to breathe a new life into you. It’s going to give you the opportunity to see the world through a new lens. Love is going to both embolden and frighten you at the same time.