It’s not over until the fat lady sings, as they say. You get to decide whether your relationship ends or not. You have the choice as to whether you’re going to call it quits or if you’re going to keep on pushing forward despite the challenges. You always have full control over the fate of your relationship. You are always going to have the power to push through whatever trials you might be facing with your partner; even cases of infidelity and cheating. There are a myriad of common problems and issues that plague any number of relationships all over the world. And each of them pose their own very specific sets of challenges, hurdles, and potholes.
But you’re still going to be able to work past them so as long as you show the willingness to do so. Sometimes, couples are forced to deal with diminishing intimacy and affection in a relationship. Sometimes, couples have to overcome challenges brought about by time and distance constraints. Sometimes, couples have to overcome incompatibility issues. And sometimes… couples have to overcome cases of betrayal and unfaithfulness. It takes a great deal of effort and commitment to get over the fact that you’ve just been betrayed by someone you love.
When you’re in a relationship with a person, you would expect that individual to be the last person to hurt you; to be the last person to betray your trust. You always assume that you are able to place your full trust in this person; that you are able to rely on them to always deliver for you. And so when the moment comes where you are forced to realize that all your beliefs are lies, it can be very difficult. You have to deal with the blow of the betrayal; and you are forced to look at a future wherein you are going to have to limit the trust that you are giving to the relationship. It’s definitely not easy having to get over the pain of being betrayed by someone close to you.
But just because it’s difficult doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. You have to remember that there is no wound that can’t heal; there is no scar that won’t fade. Even when you’ve been cheated on in a relationship, there is still a chance for you to make things work. A case of unfaithfulness or infidelity doesn’t automatically constitute the end of the relationship. It’s going to be an uphill climb to get things back to the way that they were; but at least you have a real shot at succeeding. It all depends on how lucky you are and how willing you are to make things work no matter how difficult things might seem in your relationship.
It’s important to maintain the mindset that a relationship is always a break and build process. A relationship is always supposed to be dynamic. You are both constantly changing as individuals and as a couple. It’s part of growth. It’s part of being a human being. You make a few mistakes here and there and you better learn from them. You better be able to adapt; otherwise, you get left behind in the dust. You have overcome some trials before; and even though this may be your toughest trial yet, it should still be worth a shot.
And if you’re feeling lost and you feel like you don’t know what to do, then this article is for you. Remember that you can’t do everything on your own. Your partner has to be on board as well. Otherwise, all of this becomes moot. Follow the steps that are listed on here and you will be putting yourselves in the best position to overcome this difficult time in your relationship.
1. Talk about the things that you value the most in your relationship.
Remind yourselves of why this relationship is still worth fighting for; of why this relationship is still worth holding onto.
2. Seek external help if necessary.
You can be each other’s support systems; but sometimes, you aren’t going to be able to make it entirely on your own. If you’re going to need help from friends, family, or from licensed professionals, don’t be afraid to ask for it.
3. Talk about what you need to do to avoid a situation like this in the future.
Sometimes, prevention is better than cure. Right? So instead of screwing up and saying sorry afterwards, just avoid screwing up altogether.
4. Own up to what you’re both accountable for in your relationship.
Accept that just because you were the one who was cheated on doesn’t mean that you don’t have your share of faults. Be humble enough to acknowledge that you have room for growth.
5. Understand that it’s going to be an uphill climb.
It’s not going to be easy. It’s going to feel like the both of you are starting from scratch; but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe what you need to be okay again is to have a blank slate.